::UPDATE::I wonder how many men are going through what I'm going through | This co-sleeping shit aint for me

Update:  Lack of PDA and lovin' got to him.  He finally understood were I was coming from and decided that this issue effects us greatly.  He said he's going to fix this issue.  ::YES!!!::

I didn't even know this shit had a name for it.  Co-sleeping that is.  Co-sleeping is when everyone shares a bed.  I've been reading about it all morning and I've read about a 12, 14, 16, and even and 18 year old sleeping in the same bed as their parents.  I follow people of various ethnicity on Twitter and found that African American women shun co-sleeping.  I don't agree with it either.  I was raised by a single mother.  We didn't share a bed.  Now don't get me wrong I would end up in her bed every now and then.  Most of the time when I ended up in her bed it was because she was at work or going out for the night and I wanted to hang out in her room.  Fast-forward 10 years later and we welcome my little brother in the world.  Same thing...he slept in his own bed in his own room from day one.  I can probably count the number of times he slept with either my mother or myself on one hand. 


I've been in the Bay 3 weeks and can count on one had the number of times my fiance and I have slept in the bed alone.  This isn't what I imagined to say the least.  I'm not happy about it either.  My fiance is a single father of 3 kids...the youngest being 2 years old.  All the boys have their own beds but the 2 year old is NEVER told to sleep in his bed.  He's allowed to stay up and watch T.V. with his dad and I after the boys' 9PM bed time.  I'm really not sure why.  This hasn't been beneficial to him.  He's often up til 11:30 at night.  He has to be next to his dad in order to fall asleep and when he falls asleep alone he makes his way to our bed in the middle of the night often crying.  He's rarely not told or even asked to return to his bed.  Dad puts him on his chest and pats his back til he falls asleep.  This goes on EVERY single night.  Our toddler is completely dependent on sleeping with dad.  If you're reading this I'm sure at this point your asking "so when do you and your fiance sleep alone or together?"  We don't...well we have twice.  Once he sleep in his big brother's bed (again completely dependent on sleeping with someone) and once he made it through the night sleeping alone.  How is this shit acceptable for my fiance?  He's not trying to fix this shit or trying to get our toddler to sleep alone.  I'm not okay with this...I've never been ok with this but his dad is.  Since he's dad and these are his children I'm forced to accept this shit.  Dad isn't making any attempt to put an end to this co-sleep bullshit.  When I try to talk about it he says "that's not the issue with him he goes to sleep alone just fine".  Sounds like he's delusion or simply not ready to put an end to this co-sleeping shit.  Since I'm the one with the issue I'll continue to sleep alone. 

Usually it's the women that encourage this type of behavior for purely for selfish reasons.  I wonder how many men are going through what I'm going through.  I feel bad for the anyone going through this shit...keep ya head up.